If you’re a teenage girl reading this and you’ve never been asked for inappropriate photos from a guy, then count yourself lucky. But I guarantee it will come one day. The text, the Snap or the DM.
When I was a freshman a guy, who I believed genuinely liked me, asked me how far I would go if we dated. When I was a sophomore, a boy asked me to “sext”. And once I hit junior year, I received an inappropriate photo from a boy. This summer, while I was spending time on a college campus, I was asked to do something to a guy and to send nudes, by two different guys, within 12 hours. I was outraged. Coming from a private Christian school, I was not oblivious to the world of sexualized teen culture, but I had never experienced it this directly. My friend told me that this is a normal occurrence in her world. This opened my eyes to the world around me. In society today, a trend exist among guys who think that it is perfectly acceptable to request naked photos, or more, from a girl; whether it be over Snapchat, text or Instagram. But the problem is, society doesn’t hold them accountable. You don’t see teenage girls asking boys for ‘dick pics’. I’m not saying that this never happens, but it is not as common and it when it happens, girls don’t get off clean like boys do. They get labeled slut, hoe or desperate. I am not a feminist beyond the original meaning, the idea that men and women ought to share equal rights. But this summer, when I was asked to send nudes and to do other things for boys, I began to see the double standard that our culture has allowed to become normal. This is not okay. It is not a lie that women have been sexualized in society. But this doesn’t mean we must comply. Young girls, do not send boys nudes if they ask. I don’t care if they are your boyfriend or the guy you have had a crush on for 5 years. It is not right for boys to ask this of females and to think that it is ok. Our bodies are beautiful temples. No one should get to share it with you over Snapchat, Instagram or text. If a guy asks to do something with you that you are not comfortable with, say NO. Remember that you hold control over your body and your choices are yours to make. If something happens that you are uncomfortable with, tell someone. This article may sound like some feminist vendetta, but I really just wanted to put it out there that this double standard exists. And to remind girls that when that day comes that a boy asks for nudes, asks for a ‘favor’ or sends something you don’t want to see, you are in control and can say NO. Another great source on Feminism today is Dennis Prager’s video “Feminism 2.0”
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